My sister has had to experience quite a lot in her 21 years of life. Many of her close friends have died, she has been plagued by many odd illnesses and there has been a general black cloud above her head. Yesterday her best friend died. He was a brilliant and generous person who probably experienced more in his short life (25 years) than most of us have. My sister asked me why this had to happen to him. Why did such a wonderful person have to suffer through stage four cancer, fall in love and get married (only to be cheated on), lose his brother in a freak accident (and have the settlement money stolen by his devious wife), witness the birth of his beautiful twins (only to find out that they were not his at all) and finally go into a painless remission (only to have a stroke due to three unknown brain tumors). I could not answer her question because I can't think of any reason that could explain such a tragedy. A 25 year old who fought so hard to live finally lost the battle.
He did not have a long life but from what I understand he had a rich life. Even though the woman he adored was a traitor from the start, he was head over heels in love. Not everyone can say that they have ever experienced something like that. True love. Perhaps her feelings were a farce but his were not. He lived in that dream as he lived in the nightmare of various surgeries and cancer treatments. He was not mediocre as so many of us are.
Perhaps the only thing that I can say to my sister is that he had more zest for life than most people I know, he had more disasters in life than any person I know, and he knew the value of every moment more than I could ever know. Don't ask why. Life is not black and white. Not all stories have a happy ending. Just feel fortunate that this rare gem, this pure positive energy touched your life, no matter how brief it was.
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